Friendship, Trust;
In every friendship to work, there must be trust.
Turn to anyone you know, a school teacher, a lawyer, a judge, even a nun, and ask them this, ‘have you ever been backstabbed before?’ an immediate response would be yes.
But when you ask a question quite on the contrary, ‘have you backstabbed anyone before?’ then those who responded as quick as lightning to the question previously asked would tend to think a while and pause before they answer.
WHY IS THAT SO? Is it not common that we too are hypocritical. Or are we all in self-denial denying the very fact that we’ve felt hurt and disappointment someone at one point or another in our lives therefore ignoring the pain we inflict on others just to gain more self worth and comfort?
Who measures self worth anyway?
Is your self worth any higher than that of those who have backstabbed you if you do the same?
So stop being a hypocrite and think before you act.
Real friends are hard to find so appreciate those you have now for one slip can cause you one less person to share memories with, one less person to hear your rants and complains, one less person to comfort you when youre down, one less person to tell you that its gonna be okay even during the harshest storms, one less person to wish you well in life and the list goes on.
Trust, we all have trusted someone and felt the let down before.But before we get all 'OHMYGOD, how could you?!' on that person, reflect on your own personality, have you let down anyone before?
Once trust Is breached, you have to work for it back. Yet many choose to just ignore the fact that theyve misused someone’s trust and carry on with their daily routine. It may take a simple ‘im sorry’ to fix things or maybe even as drastic as ‘you will be my slave for __ days. Then only ill forgive you’ all for the sake of fixing something even money cant buy, something that may even take years to regain, but yet, why don’t we ever own up to our mistakes before a confrontation even happens? Or why don’t we all just shut our mouths and not say anything to avoid trust issues? I guess we’re only human.
We tend to blame those who spilled out secrets, spread gossips but really, we brought it on to ourselves. Why would or rather should we tell someone our deepest darkest secrets if it wasn’t meant to be shared. After all, your secrets are the safest with you. Secrets and gossips only go as far as the recipient receives it but the image of the person spoken about, tarnished forever.
A secret isn’t a secret if everyone knows about it, a gossip only gets juicier when more oil is added to the already blazing flame and stories get twisted with our lack of communication and proper conveying of the message. All for what? Popularity? This life isn’t like gossip girl. THIS IS REALITY.
We ourselves listen to gossips although we know not of the whole story. So why are we all being so hypocritical by condemning those who spread rumours when we ourselves believe in them and do nothing to stop it?
I admit, I am a hypocrite at times but at this point in my life, I choose NOT to trust anyone except those I know, know like the back of my hand. I choose to listen but not react, I choose to ignore even the most hurtful statements, I choose to put my feet in their shoes for a moment and try to feel what they feel, I choose to own up for my mistakes, I choose to understand first before reacting, I choose to be just.. ME.
Point is, the world is really changing, people are too. So don’t be so naive and believe what people say and then tell them your secrets cos the very people you love sometimes tend to be the very people who’ll break you. Get to know them, know who they really are, know what they do. If they backstab their other friends and bitch about them to you, chances are that they are backstabbing you too. Best way to get out of it, just nod all the way when people bitch about others to you, don’t add more oil just simply nod and say, 'if you say so, i have no comment' simple.
You don’t want to be the one on the hot seat when asked whether you said this, you said that do you?
I guess this is just all a part of growing up.
We fall and learn how to pick ourselves up again.
We cry, then learn how to wipe away them tears and fake a smile.
We learn that in everything, time plays an important role.
We’ve felt disappointment so we know how to feel remorseful when we disappoint others.
We laugh and learn that life has a lot to offer.
We learn to appreciate the time we have.
We learn to trust and trust again.
We learn to forgive and even forget.
We're just merely humans.
What are we really living for?
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t suppose to let us down probably will. You’ll have your heart broken, probably more than once, and its harder every time. You’ll break hearts too so remember how it felt when someone broke yours. You’ll fight with your best friend and maybe fall in love with them. You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, because friends backstab you, and you’ll eventually lose someone close to you. So take many pictures, laugh too much, adnn love like youve never been hurt before because for every 60 seconds you spend being angry or upset, is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
So yes, keep best friends close to your soul, your close friends close to your heart, good friends near your body and friends at arms length.
Give your heart to someone you truly love, appreciate them while you have them but don’t give your life or your soul.
Captain your own destination, be the pilot of your dreams, reach for the stars.
Special thanks to the people that matter most in my life, the people that will go all out for me, especially the people who ive given my part of my soul to. You know who you are.
Im sorry if i've done anything to hurt you. :s
LOVE YAAAA. :)
p/s: this isn’t intended for anyone, its just merely to express my thoughts and feelings.
RANDOM MUCH? Simple thoughts, complicated problems.
REALLY looking forward for: CHEER '10, Andrew's Party, July babies party & World Stage yes? :D
LOVE LOVE!
WOW, SO DAMN LONG. :P
